My partner would come to the beach with me all the time when I started kite surfing .
She would take video of me all the time, and she was sort of into it .
Now 3 years down the track and she hates it , she hates it as much as I love it .
So I thought I would start this thread because you should hear the $H!T she say's
And I'm shore I'm not the only bloke out there that is going through this
I'm sick of hearing about kite surfing
We can't even go for a walk without you looking up at the trees all the time
I see you have started taking your gear to work with you every day what's with that
You love kitesurfing more than me
It goes on and on but I guess I drove her to this with my love for kitesurfing
I just can't help my self I have to be on the water .
So share your stories and hope our partners never find this topic .
Ha Ha ... My missus says...
just pick your times to kite,not when I should be taking kids to school etc ( oops)
Great idea for a thread!
Missus- I'd like to try kiting but am a bit nervous about the power of the kite , I might try windsurfing
Me- that's controversial!
Select to expand quotestuntnaz said..
My partner would come to the beach with me all the time when I started kite surfing .
She would take video of me all the time, and she was sort of into it .
Now 3 years down the track ...
I just can't help my self I have to be on the water .
As much as I emphasise with you, don't let her get too annoyed, because she will leave you (if that matters to you).
You just >>may<< be a little bit obsessed with it mate, and I know that feeling too. All I want to do is kite.
I took my gear to work too, even my land board just for a quickie down at a park near work hence why i land kite and water kite.
It's obsessive and it could lead to your own downfall with her, your job, everything. Take it from me, don't look for others here giving you the excuse to keep doing it and thumbing your nose at her. She will leave you and it will be way too late. It almost happened to me.
How did I fix it? I basically controlled my urges to only kite once or if I am lucky twice a week. I know that sounds hard to do for you right now, but it will save you a lot of agony later on. And leave your gear in the garage, not in the car to avoid temptation.
I hate to say it, but there is more to life than just kiting and it took me a year to realise that.
Good luck
Select to expand quoteLoftywinds said...stuntnaz said..
My partner would come to the beach with me all the time when I started kite surfing .
She would take video of me all the time, and she was sort of into it .
Now 3 years down the track ...
I just can't help my self I have to be on the water .
As much as I emphasise with you, don't let her get too annoyed, because she will leave you (if that matters to you).
You just >>may<< be a little bit obsessed with it mate, and I know that feeling too. All I want to do is kite.
I took my gear to work too, even my land board just for a quickie down at a park near work hence why i land kite and water kite.
It's obsessive and it could lead to your own downfall with her, your job, everything. Take it from me, don't look for others here giving you the excuse to keep doing it and thumbing your nose at her. She will leave you and it will be way too late. It almost happened to me.
How did I fix it? I basically controlled my urges to only kite once or if I am lucky twice a week. I know that sounds hard to do for you right now, but it will save you a lot of agony later on. And leave your gear in the garage, not in the car to avoid temptation.
I hate to say it, but there is more to life than just kiting and it took me a year to realise that.
Good luck
Thanks for that advice my partner is my high school sweet heart we have been through
Some $H!T together and probably heaps more but we have always. Worked it out
We were talking about this the other day actually .. The point of the topic was more for a laugh but you do have a good point . Don't know how it's going to go when I teach our boy to kite though .
Mate, score points when there is no wind. I take mine to the beach and walk the dog.
Take her out to dinner every now and then. (You do get busted when it's winter and the dinners stop)
Now she considers the wind. I'm allowed to Leave family things early and considers kiting hours. But I do have a very cruisy wife.
Select to expand quoteBrad2 said..
"It would be much nicer sitting on the beach if it wasn't windy"
+ 1 here!
Same story here.
8 years ago when we first met, she used to say, "Great, this is fun that you kite. I will come down to the beach all the time while you kite". This quickly (ie. 2 trips to the beach) turned into her saying things like, "would be better if it wasn't so windy". "That sand gets everywhere". "Is there somewhere with no sand or wind that you can do this?" "This is a little boring". "Perhaps I stay home and you go by yourself".
We married on the understanding that I kite and that is part of me. My best man even put it in his speech and I managed to take my kite on my honeymoon (really, I might only have one chance to kite Mauritius and wow it was good!! Only one day out of 10 and most were kitable but I do realize it was a honeymoon not a kite trip!!)
Now there is just a total lack of interest. I go and have my own time at the beach and it doesn't matter what the story is that I come back with, for example I say, "biggest surf of the season!!" "It was soooo windy today!!!" "Beaches were closed because of sharks but kited anyway!!" "Pulled into a barrel, got held down and almost drowned. I might need to go to the hospital". "I just did an epic, 6 hour downwinder in remote WA". "I just bought 2 new kites". Etc etc.
What she says without raising her eyes from her book.... "that's nice"
after 2 weeks of good wind -
"who are you ? and what are you doing in my house ? "
Select to expand quotestuntnaz said..
Thanks for that advice my partner is my high school sweet heart we have been through
Some $H!T together and probably heaps more but we have always. Worked it out
We were talking about this the other day actually .. The point of the topic was more for a laugh but you do have a good point . Don't know how it's going to go when I teach our boy to kite though .
Anytime bro.
I have a 4yo son too man. And soon I will be taking him with me just playing on the water, maybe a kite out with him between my legs, etc. should be fun. But it's about him, not me. When I go out it's my time and my link with nature, energy, you know the rest. Make a picnic of it and ask (don't invite!) her to come along. Treat the kite like taking a footy to the beach. When we go camping, we don't go for days just so i can get a chance to kick a ball! So treat kiting the same when you're with your family. It"s just another "family toy" so to speak and she will appreciate you more for making the obvious effort to spend time with her and your child, not the kite. Believe me, the kiting sessions get more frequent anyway! It"s like life rewards you in return.
5 years and my wife finally came around, now she ask,s me how the wind is looking to plan the week ahead. 
Classic thread. You need to set the rules from the start and don't give in, ie in summer don't make any plans for the afternoon. At the start the misses will get a bit annoyed that you don't turn up when its windy or you make her change her plans but after a while she will accept it.
I did the same as Jono (above) and went to Mauritius for our honeymoon. We were at the travel agent booking the holiday and the travel agent says 'why do you want to stay at Le Morne? Its very windy.' I got busted but we still went.
Not the missus but when people refer to your kiteboarding as "windsurfing" ie. "oh I saw on Facebook you did some nice windsurfing the other day" makes me want to kill myself.
I dropped the Wind Clause on a chick I was dating last year, she countered with the King's Commandments, we're not together anymore
If a woman leaves you because of your kiting commitments then you're probably better off without her.
Thankfully mine understands, though she never comes to watch. "Oooh It's too windy" etc...
i swear ex must of had seebreeze on her phone becuase everytime we had to go to a family evemt it was ****ing windy... hence the ex bit
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If a woman leaves you because of your kiting commitments then you're probably better off without her.
Precisely, if it's all about control, then you are best rid of.
Why do some of them have to control you, where you go and what you do?
They should be happy that you have found something that keeps you "out of trouble" and you always go back, happy. Not worrying about what she's going to say because you're a little late
Been there, done that. Never again
pfftt, bitches 
I'm lucky, I have a partner that kites, so win for me.
But I hear of so many unhappy guys getting stress because they are "going kiting again"
Or they have to be back ASAP, or they'll get stress.
Ah.... yes.
My missis hates any wind above 8 knots and sand with the wrath of 1000 circus monkeys.
Hates it.
I think you need to ride the fine line of being and arsehole and nice guy all at same time.
State without total conviction that this is your passion and you will do it. There is no negotiation! Its a deal breaker for the relationship! that's the arsehole bit. But in reality it is true. If you cannot follow your passion lifeless you will be one grumpy bastarrdo!
Then make sure she has equal opportunity to follow her passion. Problem is a lot of women don't have a passion. Help here fine one. Ideally kitesurfing heheheh.... or a passion that doesn't clash with yours.
And yes when there is no wind be a legend.
Lofty.... you know what you need for your boy? Tandem buggy! he will love it! and so will you!
Select to expand quoteTHE DONG said...
i swear ex must of had seebreeze on her phone becuase everytime we had to go to a family evemt it was ****ing windy... hence the ex bit
What's with that ! That happens to me all the time with her family as we'll
Really guys it's very easy;
Annoy the f#ck out of her then she glad to see that arse end of you for awhile. Or find a beach close to shops. Works for me
Peutz is one of the lucky ones, his lovely wife loves it as much as he does.
Select to expand quoteLoftywinds said...stuntnaz said..
My partner would come to the beach with me all the time when I started kite surfing .
She would take video of me all the time, and she was sort of into it .
Now 3 years down the track ...
I just can't help my self I have to be on the water .
As much as I emphasise with you, don't let her get too annoyed, because she will leave you (if that matters to you).
You just >>may<< be a little bit obsessed with it mate, and I know that feeling too. All I want to do is kite.
I took my gear to work too, even my land board just for a quickie down at a park near work hence why i land kite and water kite.
It's obsessive and it could lead to your own downfall with her, your job, everything. Take it from me, don't look for others here giving you the excuse to keep doing it and thumbing your nose at her. She will leave you and it will be way too late. It almost happened to me.
How did I fix it? I basically controlled my urges to only kite once or if I am lucky twice a week. I know that sounds hard to do for you right now, but it will save you a lot of agony later on. And leave your gear in the garage, not in the car to avoid temptation.
I hate to say it, but there is more to life than just kiting and it took me a year to realise that.
Good luck
so what your saying is there is an unwritten " Get Out Clause " 
as for not taking your gear anywhere pffffft
tell her she can only carry her handbag around once maybe twice a week 
Although kiting once a week would se me find no purpose in life, I do respect lofty winds commitment to his partner and the decision he made.
I respect it because I couldn't do it myself.
I was kiting before I met my wife of 10 years and I will be kiting thereafter. I stood her up 6 times (or was very late) due to the wind when we first met so she got the idea.
When we had two under two though I needed to pull back a bit (and thereafter sex wise...lol), now they are 6 and 7 it's game on.
Plummett is right very few have a passion, and you and the kids becomes their damn hobby, needing to organise months in advance.
I am teacher and work with 80 percent women staff so I get exposed to the female mind on a daily basis that would drive most men to insanity...they all share the same disease.
The need to control their external Environment as their internal is all over the place.
My stories a bit like jono parks really....and yes I get asked wha the wind is doing before any plans.
And yes I get no questions nor replys re the sessions. Don't bother anymore.
I met my wife when I came to Oz on a surf trip, so she knew what was important to me. My life was centered around the ocean. We traveled the world in search of good waves before we had kids. When the girls were born I slowed back on my surfing and spent time with my kids instead. That was important to ME, and not just my wife. As my kids became interested in other things, (one surfs the other doesn't like the beach.....go figure as its right across the street) I was able to spend more time in the water. Now, I go every day there is wind and waves. She has not complained one bit because she knows that I will drop everything to be part of my family when it really matters. I am one of the very lucky ones. My wife doesn't harass me, I am self motivated to do my jobs around the house, and we have been together now for 28 years. She has no desire to learn to kite, she is an artist so she is happy to spend time alone in her studio. Win win for us all.
I feel for anyone, man or women, who put demands on people without really understanding their passions.
This is a good thread, nice to see a change like this!
mate, act like a dickhead when there's been no wind for a while
then, after every kite session, doesnt matter whether it was an epic-all-timer or you crashed out and shredded your kite, come home stoked, dont say a thing about the session but just be stoked about her and the house and whatever shyte is going on.
She'll soon be packing the car and sending you down the beach
